The Art of Apologizing

Where It Starts

It starts with society. Society has a view of those who apologize and it can have an effect on our opinion of the act.

* Weakness – Apologizing can be seen as a defect in your personality. It gives someone else a step over you. If you apologize once you will do it again.

* Admission of guilt – Some people apologize to diffuse a situation. To others, this can be seen as an admission of guilt when you are not guilty at all. Some people are afraid of that.

* Surrender – You are giving over your power to someone else. We have enough people telling us what to do, so we don’t want to voluntarily give that right to someone else.

* Imperfection – Offering an apology may make you feel that something is wrong with you. You made a mistake and are not perfect but an apology brings that to light and you feel woefully inadequate.

The tendency can be to avoid situations where you could make a mistake. In the real world, that can potentially stop you from leaving your house. Each time you interact with someone else there could be a misunderstanding that can lead to an apology needing to be offered.

Here are some ways that you can learn to apologize when you have to without fearing fall-out.

* Do it right away – When we wait to offer an apology, we think of many reasons why we shouldn’t or why we couldn’t. Allay your fears by saying sorry when the incident happens.

* Understand the situation – How would you feel if the same thing happened to you? If you would expect an apology then offer it to someone else. Say what you would want to hear.

* Be sincere – Refrain from prefacing your apology and using words that could render it insincere like “but.” Give your all because anything less will be noticed.

Apologizing is more than saying you are sorry. It is recognizing that someone else has been hurt either intentionally or unintentionally by you. Your timely response can change everything.